The Scenario: It’s easy to fall back on the old proverb, “an eye for an eye,” when we feel we’ve been wronged or harmed, especially in our relationships. But how do we respond positively to adversity to build up the relationship instead of tear it down?
What do we need to build up resilience in our relationships?
According to The Resilience Scale, created by Gail M. Wagnild and Heather M. Young, the foundations of resilience begins with:
1. Identifying purpose and meaning for your life and relationships
2. Sustaining a strong resolve to pursue that purpose when faced with challenges in your relationships
3. Maintaining poise, positivity, optimism, humor and a sense of calm when the future of your relationship seems unclear
4. Being at peace with yourself and the other person in the relationship, exactly where you are in life, and owning your own identity and encouraging your partner or friend to do the same.
The Insight – Building resilience in relationships begins with strengthening resilience in yourself. It takes a conscious, daily effort to recognize and reward yourself for personal growth and feel confident with who you are today. Only after you have learned to acknowledge your own strengths will you be able to recognize the strengths in others and put forth the effort to make a valuable relationship work.
What resilient qualities do you posses?
Creating Positive Perspectives for Life