Thank you so much for your interest in The Insight, by Sheba. I hope you enjoyed this week’s blogs about “The Person You Want to Be.”
Next week’s topic will be “The Language of Emotion.”
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1. Talk It Out
- The generalizations we use with others can make them defensive, but the ones we use with ourselves can be detrimental to our self-esteem. Look at your personal statements from a different perspective. Are they encouraging you to be the person you want to be? Steer away from pessimistic generalizations about yourself. Instead, encourage yourself to avoid the same mistakes and to push through hardships to be the person you want to be. To combat negative generalizations you can also learn your ABCDEs, a positive intervention created by Seligman.
- Nobody wants to be or think of themselves as a failure…so don’t. Falling down once doesn’t mean that you will never succeed, but giving up certainly strips you of the opportunity to succeed or improve. Remember that you are more than capable of overcoming any obstacles set before you. Take the steps to strengthen yourself and learn resilience. You never know, the difference in one more try might be the difference between failure and success!
- Active constructive responses increase loyalty, commitment and love. Use them everyday and be engaged when communicating. The better we communicate the better able we are to express ourselves and be the person we want to be.
- Connections are an important part of a satisfying life, especially when we face challenges and need a support system to help us overcome or bounce back. Create an action plan to build and increase connections where you feel they are lacking in your life. Decide which measures you will take and make them a daily practice. They will soon become engrained in your identity and help you foster stronger, deeper, healthier relationships.
The Insight: Being the person you want to be is no easy task. We are human and we falter. But striving to be the person we want to be is a reward in and of itself. There is no set formula, special ingredient or magic suit we can wear to become that person. We must set goals for ourselves and understand that we will falter or run into obstacles. But realize all the while that as we labor to regain our footing we learn and grow into the person we truly want to be.
Have a wonderful weekend!
A Positive Perspective for Life, Love, and Relationships