In the midst of the festivity madness I’ve started a new blog called The Insight, by Sheba. I’ll be reaching out to some of you for support over the next few days.

I hope you enjoyed this week’s entries for “This is the Season”. Next week we “Welcome the New Year.” Thanks again you for your support!

Friday Review: It’s the Season

• Create your holiday checklist filled with moments that make you happy
• Establish challenging goals that are realistic
• Enjoy the meaning of the season with people you care most about
• Give to people outside your circle of close friends and family

Have a peaceful holiday!

By Sheba

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A Positive Perspective for Life, Love, and Relationships

The Scenario: Every year we share our holiday cheer with, tackle it with those people in our immediate circle. What about those outside the realm of family and close friends that may not be as fortunate? They may not have a circle as big and full as yours?

Can you think of three people not on your usual list that you could share your holiday happiness with?

I’m sure you can. I don’t mean wrap another gift or spend money. I’m saying pick up the cell or send an email and just thank someone for simply being there for your. There must have been a time, unbeknownst to them, when you were with that person or group of people and their positive energy, support, and laughter got you through a moment. By sending that email or picking up the phone today, you may be returning that favor to them without even knowing it.

The Insight: Give thanks and share your holiday cheer with three people or a group of people outside your immediate circle. Spread the happiness!

Who are you giving to this holiday?

By Sheba

www.bySheba.com

A Positive Perspective for Life, Love, and Relationships

The Scenario: How do we create traditions when visitation schedules and alternating custodial rights do not coordinate with the actual holiday? Creating customs around a 21^st century blended family is not a simple task. The post World War II nuclear family is slowly being replaced with families of divorced parents, step-siblings, half-siblings, single-parent households, and non-traditional marriages.

What becomes more important, the holiday or its meaning?

Traditions are ritualistic actions we share with one another that have been passed down through generations or created by us. If your goal is to celebrate a holiday in the manner that is most important to you, then do it. You can choose any day to celebrate your holiday with whomever you wish. Share its meaning with those closest to you. If your family cannot be with you to commemorate the season then be flexible and decide what is more important, its meaning or the date.

The Insight: We get so caught up with strict schedules dictating the day we are supposed to share or celebrate. If you cannot be with your family to commemorate, give thanks, remembrance, or praise, then I’m sure you will be forgiven if you change the date so that you are all together. Don’t loose the meaning of the season.

By Sheba

www.bySheba.com

A Positive Perspective for Life, Love, and Relationships

The Scenario: The lists are made, cards are labeled, and there is no time to follow through with the goals we’ve set.

Why do we place so much pressure on ourselves? What standards are we trying to live up to? Are they realist for us, at this time in our lives?

These are challenging questions to a simple scenario but apply it to any aspect of life. When you understand the answers the pressures become obsolete and your direction is clear.

The Insight: Create challenging goals that are difficult to attain but realistic based on your lifestyle and the reward is success.

By Sheba

www.bySheba.com

A Positive Perspective for Life, Love, and Relationships

The scenario: It’s down to the last days and we’ve procrastinated enough.  No matter how many times we say we’re not waiting until the last minute…here it is.  There are still cards to mail, gifts to wrap, and menus to plan for Holiday dinners.

Didn’t we know last year exactly when the holiday season would be here?

In the midst of the festivity madness I’ve started a new blog, called The Insight. I’ve worked out a few of the kinks and plan to share it with friends over the coming days. However, this week, I’m going to follow my advice and build in moments that make me happy.

I’ve created my list . . .What’s on yours?

• Unplug the technology every evening
• Relax, take deep breaths, sleep in for two days and slow down
• Have conversations that are not interrupted by mental distractions
• Set aside specific time to focus on the people that are important to me
• Choose a book and take turns reading it with my husband before bed
• Play board games with my nephews
• Set aside date night with my husband and family night
• Create time to map out our 2011 Mantra and building blocks
• Plan a lunch with a family member and a close friend
• Update my calendar with me time, social time and work time for 2011
• Call two family members and two old friends to say Happy Holidays
• Enjoy every moment of this season

The Insight: Make a list of the simple moments that bring you joy during this holiday season.

By Sheba

www.bysheba.com

A Positive Perspective for Life, Love, and Relationships