The Scenario: How do we create traditions when visitation schedules and alternating custodial rights do not coordinate with the actual holiday? Creating customs around a 21st century blended family is not a simple task. The post World War II nuclear family is slowly being replaced with families of divorced parents, step-siblings, half-siblings, single-parent households, and non-traditional marriages.
What becomes more important, the holiday or its meaning?
Traditions are ritualistic actions we share with one another that have been passed down through generations or created by us. If your goal is to celebrate a holiday in the manner that is most important to you, then do it. You can choose any day to celebrate your holiday with whomever you wish. Share its meaning with those closest to you. If your family cannot be with you to commemorate the season then be flexible and decide what is more important, its meaning or the date.
The Insight: We get so caught up with strict schedules dictating the day we are supposed to share or celebrate. If you cannot be with your family to commemorate, give thanks, remembrance, or praise, then I’m sure you will be forgiven if you change the date so that you are all together. Don’t loose the meaning of the season.
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