Thank you so much for your interest in The Insight, by Sheba. I hope you enjoyed this week’s blogs about “Manipulation.”
Next week’s topic will be “Defense Mechanisms.”
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- To make sure you don’t fall into the trap of being manipulated and set up for failure, don’t put the onus on the other person. They may manipulate others intentionally or unintentional miscommunications may occur. Give them the benefit of the doubt and take charge of the situation. Ask questions, make sure you understand the intended message, document it if needed and reiterate the information for clarity. Look for specifics, facts, accuracy, context, completion, and separate emotion from the information.
- Yes, you can be conditioned to have a negative outlook but you can also be conditioned or manipulated to have a positive outlook. Each of us comes with a moral compass that allows us to make sound decisions. Your first step toward training your brain to be more positive is to document five things a day that you like. You are on your way to manipulating yourself into having a positive outlook.
- Trust your inner voice and in the idea that people can change. If you feel that someone is trying to manipulate you, communicate your concerns openly and sincerely. Remember that you may be raising the bar for that individual to be a better person. Be cognizant of their response. The situation may happen again because change in behavior does not happen overnight. Give them time and room to grow but know your limits.
- The goal of manipulation is behavioral change. If you are the receiver of any form of manipulation, “pushback” or call attention to the behavior. Be aware that there will be a reaction. When in a safe environment stand your ground and ask clarifying questions with the goal of fostering genuine connection and communication.
The Insight: To recognize manipulation, pay attention to the message and familiarize yourself with manipulative behaviors. Ask clarifying questions, use tactics to call attention to the situation and trust your inner voice to protect against manipulation.
Have a wonderful weekend!
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