The Scenario – You could spend hours counting the number of ways someone has hurt you, or listing a person’s bad qualities, but where does that lead you? Nowhere except to resentment, irritation and regret. What would it look like if instead we made a list of reasons why we should forgive, and the number of ways letting go of the negativity would benefit us?
What are the benefits of letting go of old grudges and harbored negative emotions?
According to Katherine Piderman, Ph.D., staff Chaplin of the Mayo Clinic, forgiveness facilitates:
1. Healthy relationships
2. Spiritual and psychological well-being
3. Decrease in stress and hostility
4. Decrease in blood pressure
5. Decrease in symptoms of depression, anxiety and chronic pain
6. Decreased risk of substance abuse
The Insight – Holding a grudge doesn’t help anybody, especially not the person holding onto it. If you do not take care of your mental and physical well-being, who will? It’s challenging, and you may not want to let go, or you may feel that the other person doesn’t deserve forgiveness, but consider how it would help you mentally and physically to let go of the bitterness and pain. The longer you hold onto negative emotion, the more difficult it becomes to let it go. Don’t wait. Take care of yourself.
Have you made your list of the benefits for forgiving or seeking forgiveness?
Creating Positive Perspectives for Life