The Scenario: The perfect peanut butter & jelly sandwich consists of white bread, Skippy® peanut butter, and Welch’s® grape jelly… in my opinion. The soft fluffy bread serves as a delicious conduit for that delightful sweet and salty gooey combination. If one ingredient is missing, the taste just isn’t the same. The same applies for the personal characteristics of one who celebrates others with sincerity time and time again.

What is the combination of character traits needed to celebrate others without regard to one’s self?

Self-Confidence

• The ability to understand that another’s success is just that…another person’s success.

Humility

• You are able celebrate others with the gracefulness and humbleness required to step back and let someone else have their moment of glory.

Optimism

• When the time for someone to celebrate you has not arrived you remain confident when celebrating others and optimistic that your moment will come.

The Insight: Celebrating others is a selfless act of kindness that shows immense personal integrity. It takes confidence, humility and optimism to truly celebrate the success of another person. These are qualities we all possess to varying degrees, so make the decision today to celebrate someone else and share your positive perspective.

Who are you celebrating today?

By Sheba

www.bySheba.com

Creating Positive Perspectives for Life

The Scenario: Are you capable of being happy for your co-worker when he or she receives the promotion you thought you should have? What about being selflessly supportive when the person closest to you has focused their attentions toward someone else? Both instances need strong self-awareness.

Can celebrating others help you overcome jealousy?

We will define jealousy as having resentment toward the successes or advantages of another person. This state of being is rooted in negative emotion and cannot be displayed by one distinct behavior or reaction. There are several reasons for resentment or jealousy.

Types of Jealousy

• Romantic: When the attentions of a partner are directed toward someone else.
• Power: More attention directed toward one employee of a similar position to another.
• Family: Lack of attention from a family member or more attention toward a family member.
• Friend: Comparing two friends and giving one more attention than the other.

The Insight: To celebrate others and learn to overcome jealousy, it’s important to know, wholeheartedly, that the attentions, recognition or praise toward another has no actual bearing on you as an individual. You will have the confidence to understand that when you have presented your best self at all times. Celebrating others stems from a positive emotion, therefore it is impossible to be jealous when doing so.

Can you celebrate others despite your jealousy?

By Sheba

www.bySheba.com

Creating Positive Perspectives for Life

The Scenario: Do you think about the appropriate way to celebrate the success of someone from another culture? Understanding the concepts between collectivism and individualism according to the Cultural Value Dimensions by Psychologist Geert Hofstede may lead you in the right direction, but there are many ways.

What are some of the ways to celebrate the accomplishments of others?

Celebrating others is defined as expressing a sincere praise for the accomplishments or recognitions of others even in the wake of your own defeat or lack of personal recognition.

Here are some suggested ways to celebrate others:

1. Demonstrate your inspiration and motivation by presenting a token of respect for their achievements
2. Be engaged and supportive by giving focused attention, time, and energy
3. Give words of adoration face-to-face or via letter, email, text or voice message
4. Show public display of appreciation via a group meeting, forum, or social networking post.

When in doubt, ask how best to show your appreciation for an individual’s efforts.

The Insight: Celebrating the success or accomplishments of others is also a display of humility. Taking the time to understand the best way to communicate your message will ensure that your efforts are successful.

How do you successfully celebrate others?

By Sheba

www.bySheba.com

Creating Positive Perspectives for Life

The Scenario: You want people who are closest to you to invest in a personal mission: put forth every effort to be their best. In support of that mission you do not celebrate their achievements in fear of spoiling them. When they accomplish a goal, as amazing as it was, you push them to do better than that because you know they can…it’s called tough love. But what are you really teaching?

Can celebration and support affect future success, happiness and change behavior?

According to Psychologist Burrhus Frederic Skinner’s theory of Operant Conditioning, we can encourage certain behaviors, such as success, through reinforcements, like celebration.

1.     Positive Reinforcement

• Certain behavior is rewarded each time it is performed, encouraging the continuation of that behavior in the future.

2.     Negative Reinforcement

• A negative behavior is not rewarded and given unpleasant consequences to encourage the desired action. However, when the unpleasant consequence to that behavior is avoided the behavior continues.

3.     Punishment

• A negative behavior is suppressed out of the fear of unpleasant consequences but the motivation or cause of that behavior has not been removed.

4.     Extinction

• Certain behavior receives no reward or attention. The lack of reward for that behavior discourages its continuation.

Celebration works! Reaffirm positive behaviors with celebration.

The Insight: Whether in your personal or professional relationships remember to support, celebrate and give positive reinforcement to foster an environment for encouragement and continued success. Reward achievement and celebrate others to promote individual growth and optimism.

Do you celebrate the success of others?

By Sheba

www.bySheba.com

Creating Positive Perspectives for Life

Thank you so much for your interest in The Insight, by Sheba. I hope you enjoyed this week’s blogs about “Celebrating Others.”

Next week’s topic will be “Mental Well-Being.”

I enjoyed this week’s topic. Sometimes we are so wrapped up in work and our own lives that we forget to celebrate, in one fashion or another, those that want, need and deserve some sort of recognition from each of us.

Friday Review: Happy Reading!

1. Does it work?

• Whether in your personal or professional relationships, success for one is success for all. Support, celebrate and give positive reinforcement to encourage continued success. Reward achievement and celebrate others to create an environment for individual growth and optimism.

2. Successfully.

• Celebrating the success or accomplishments of others is also a display of humility. Taking the time to understand the best way to communicate your message will ensure that your efforts are successful.

3. Despite your Jealousy.

• To celebrate others and learn to overcome jealousy, it’s important to know, wholeheartedly, that the attentions, recognition or praise toward another has no actual bearing on you as an individual. You will have the confidence to understand that when you have presented your best self at all times. Celebrating others stems from a positive emotion, therefore it is impossible to be jealous when doing so.

4. Who is Next?

• Celebrating others is a selfless act of kindness that shows immense personal integrity. It takes confidence, humility and optimism to truly celebrate the success of another person. These are qualities we all possess to varying degrees, so make the decision today to celebrate someone else and share your positive perspective.

The Insight: Celebrating the successes of others is a selfless act of kindness that takes integrity, confidence, humility, and optimism. Research shows that the results are positive and fosters environments for future successes so why not celebrate those that have motivated or inspired you? Remember that you are the leader of your life.

Have a wonderful weekend!

By Sheba

www.bySheba.com

A Positive Perspective for Life, Love, and Relationships

The Scenario: The perfect peanut butter & jelly sandwich consists of white bread, Skippy® peanut butter, and Welch’s® grape jelly… in my opinion. The soft fluffy bread serves as a delicious conduit for that delightful sweet and salty gooey combination. If one ingredient is missing, the taste just isn’t the same. The same applies for the personal characteristics of one who celebrates others with sincerity time and time again.

What is the combination of character traits needed to celebrate others without regard to one’s self?

Self-Confidence

• The ability to understand that another’s success is just that…another person’s success.

Humility

• You are able celebrate others with the gracefulness and humbleness required to step back and let someone else have their moment of glory.

Optimism

• When the time for someone to celebrate you has not arrived you remain confident when celebrating others and optimistic that your moment will come.

The Insight: Celebrating others is a selfless act of kindness that shows immense personal integrity. It takes confidence, humility and optimism to truly celebrate the success of another person. These are qualities we all possess to varying degrees, so make the decision today to celebrate someone else and share your positive perspective.

Who are you celebrating today?

By Sheba

www.bySheba.com

A Positive Perspective for Life, Love, and Relationships

The Scenario: Are you capable of being happy for your co-worker when he or she receives the promotion you thought you should have? What about being selflessly supportive when the person closest to you has focused their attentions toward someone else? Both instances need strong self-awareness. Can celebrating others help you overcome jealousy?

We will define jealousy as having resentment toward the successes or advantages of another person. This state of being is rooted in negative emotion and cannot be displayed by one distinct behavior or reaction. There are several reasons for resentment or jealousy.

Types of Jealousy

• Romantic: When the attentions of a partner are directed toward someone else.
• Power: More attention directed toward one employee of a similar position to another.
• Family: Lack of attention from a family member or more attention toward a family member.
• Friend: Comparing two friends and giving one more attention than the other.

The Insight: To celebrate others and learn to overcome jealousy, it’s important to know, wholeheartedly, that the attentions, recognition or praise toward another has no actual bearing on you as an individual. You will have the confidence to understand that when you have presented your best self at all times. Celebrating others stems from a positive emotion, therefore it is impossible to be jealous when doing so.

Can you celebrate others despite your jealousy?

By Sheba

www.bySheba.com

A Positive Perspective for Life, Love, and Relationships

The Scenario: Do you think about the appropriate way to celebrate the success of someone from another culture? Understanding the concepts between collectivism and individualism according to the Cultural Value Dimensions by Psychologist Geert Hofstede may lead you in the right direction, but there are many ways.

What are some of the ways to celebrate the accomplishments of others?

Celebrating others is defined as expressing a sincere praise for the accomplishments or recognitions of others even in the wake of your own defeat or lack of personal recognition.

Here are some suggested ways to celebrate others:

1. Demonstrate your inspiration and motivation by presenting a token of respect for their achievements
2. Be engaged and supportive by giving focused attention, time, and energy
3. Give words of adoration face-to-face or via letter, email, text or voice message
4. Show public display of appreciation via a group meeting, forum, or social networking post.

When in doubt, ask how best to show your appreciation for an individual’s efforts. The Insight: Celebrating the success or accomplishments of others is also a display of humility. Taking the time to understand the best way to communicate your message will ensure that your efforts are successful.

How do you successfully celebrate others?

By Sheba

www.bySheba.com

A Positive Perspective for Life, Love, and Relationships

The Scenario: You want people who are closest to you to invest in a personal mission: put forth every effort to be their best. In support of that mission you do not celebrate their achievements in fear of spoiling them. When they accomplish a goal, as amazing as it was, you push them to do better than that because you know they can…it’s called tough love. But what are you really teaching?

Can celebration and support affect future success, happiness and change behavior?

According to Psychologist Burrhus Frederic Skinner’s theory of Operant Conditioning, we can encourage certain behaviors, such as success, through reinforcements, like celebration.

1. Positive Reinforcement

• Certain behavior is rewarded each time it is performed, encouraging the continuation of that behavior in the future.

2. Negative Reinforcement

• A negative behavior is not rewarded and given unpleasant consequences to encourage the desired action. However, when the unpleasant consequence to that behavior is avoided the behavior continues.

3. Punishment

• A negative behavior is suppressed out of the fear of unpleasant consequences but the motivation or cause of that behavior has not been removed.

4. Extinction

• Certain behavior receives no reward or attention. The lack of reward for that behavior discourages its continuation.

Celebration works! Reaffirm positive behaviors with celebration.

The Insight: Whether in your personal or professional relationships remember to support, celebrate and give positive reinforcement to foster an environment for encouragement and continued success. Reward achievement and celebrate others to promote individual growth and optimism.

Do you celebrate the success of others?

By Sheba

www.bySheba.com

A Positive Perspective for Life, Love, and Relationships